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Monday, June 20, 2016


What to Do at the Prayers of the People

Here is a time in the service when you can make your particular concerns aloud or silently. Think of the events in the news that affect you –war, politics or upheavals in the world. We pray for our leaders in church and state, in our city and government. We remember the issues affecting our water, air and health.

We pray for the sick in mind body or spirit; those with addictions and chronic diseases; those displaced by war, famine, earthquake, fire and food.

We remember those who have asked for our prayers. We remember them by saying their names aloud as printed in the prayer list.

We pray for those who have died recently and in the past. Remembering by mentioning their names aloud or silently makes the memory real.

Perhaps each Sunday before we come too church we take a moment to make a note on paper or mentally of the people, issues and concerns that we want to mention during the prayers of the people. This helps us connect the important things in our lives to the prayers.

Remember that when we pray for things, we may be called to do something about what we pray for. If we pray for peace, we work for peace. If we pray for someone who is sick, we might visit them, send food, a card, flowers, make a phone call or send an email.


Thursday, June 16, 2016


Donald Trump is the presumptive candidate for the Republican nomination for President of the United States. Hilary Rodham Clinton will probably be his democratic opponent. Trump’s campaign features anti Muslim and anti Mexican rhetoric. He proposes laws preventing Muslims from entering the U.S. He also wants a wall to be built to keep out illegal immigrants from Mexico. He appeals to the American underclass. They are Americans who are poorly paid, feel excluded from the mainstream and feel foreigners have taken over the job market.

The campaign will be viscous as Trump is charismatic, foul mouthed and unrestrained.  Clinton will answer his allegations with damning advertisements designed to further denigrate her opponent. I will vote for and support Hilary Rodham Clinton.

Sunday, June 12, 2016


The Woman

The woman shows Jesus great love by kissing his feet, bathing the road weary feet, anointing them with oil and drying them with her hair. The woman is a sinner, probably a prostitute. Unmarried women in Jesus day were in the depths of poverty. There was no welfare, food stamps or soup kitchens. There is a good chance she was known as a prostitute.

Jesus was criticized by his host for allowing this woman to touch him and knowing she was a sinner. Men in Jesus day did not even allow women to touch them.

Quote Jesus: Simon, do you see this woman? I entered your house; you gave me no water for my feet, but she has bathed my feet with her tears and dried them with her hair. You gave me no kiss, but from the time I came in she has not stopped kissing my feet. You did not anoint my head with oil, but she has anointed my feet with ointment. Therefore I tell you her sins, which are many, have been forgiven: hence she has shown great love. But one, whom little is forgiven, loves little. Then he said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.”

Men sat Table woman on the floor. But Jesus saw the woman as a human being. He raised her up and defended her to his host. He made her important. Jesus held women in high regard.

We Christians are called to treat women with high regard, dignity and justice.

Treatment of women as second-class citizens, weak and to be used results in RAPE.

Stanford raped woman, Jane Doe’s Story: She was drunk, assaulted and unconscious by by Brock
Allen Turner after a fraternity party

He gets six months in jail for raping the unconscious co-ed. His father Dan Turner was quoted as saying “Why should his life be ruined for twenty minutes of action?” His statement followed broock’s light sentencing.

Sexism alive and miserable. 1 in 5 women will be sexually assaulted on college campuses. My granddaughter Catherine is a sophomore at Boston University. I worry about her.

Many straight men look upon women as sex objects, not persons.

Many gay men express hostility toward women.

Machismo is present among many Latino and black men.

Of course many women regard all men as animals.

Prison systems turn a blind eye too men raping men in prisons and women raping women.

Sex prejudice reigns in our culture.

Jesus associates with the woman. We followers of Jesus need to repent of our constant sexism and repent and beg forgiveness and then go out seeking love and justice for all.

Here is a Christian take away:

We all repent of our sexism toward women and men

We can support legislation to treat raped women with respect

We can support legislation that assures rapist will receive appropriate punishment and treatment.

We pray for Brock Allen Turner, the convicted rapist.

We pray for his father, Dan Turner who callously said his son “should not be punished for 20 minutes of action.”

We pray for Judge Aaron Pesky, who is vilified for his slap on the wrist sentence of Brock Allen Turner.

We pray for the two Swedish bicyclists who helped Jane Doe survive the attack.

We pray for Jane Doe the victim of the rape, for her continued healing and restoration of her dignity.

We pray for ourselves that we avoid self-righteousness as we seek powerful justice for the victims of brutal crimes.

Monday, May 30, 2016


Monday, May 30, 2016            Memorial Day

Yes our political leaders, who believe they are fighting for justice be wary of ‘how easily they learn to justify violence in the name of some higher cause. –E.J. Dionne, Jr.

On this Memorial Day I pray for our political leaders who wage war. I hope they stop going to war.

I stand against all war. I know the arguments that we may have to defend ourselves and help others. The constant use of war and violence always causes death and suffering to the so-called enemy, “collateral damage” and the military. War does not solve problems. It creates new problems. Nobody wins, all suffer and revenge abounds.

Wars are prevented in our time when we care for the poverty of the people of the world. War is prevented when Corporations cease exploiting the resources of third world countries. War is obstructed when leaders negotiate, collaborate, compromise and conciliate.

After the fall of France, Hitler wanted to negotiate with Churchill. He flatly refused. Hitler had broken his agreements in Europe and invaded many countries. Suppose they had negotiated, suppose they had reached an agreement, suppose Hitler did leave England alone.  World War 11 might never have happened. Just suppose. Too late now. But just suppose.

Thursday, May 26, 2016


How nice that Chevron Corp. CEO John Watson is concerned for the poor. (SF Chronicle May 26, 2016) He says the California system for “limiting greenhouse gases, have been proven far too expensive.” Poor people will have to pay more for energy. Perhaps Watson’s company could pay foreign workers more money, provide medical care and decent homes. That would help the poor. Lowering the vast profits of oil companies would aid the poor by spreading the wealth. Clean air will help the poor stay healthy. More transparency about Chevron’s machinations of their information about how lower-carbon economy affects the business would help both the poor and investors.

Mr. Watson’s concern for the poor has a hollow ring.