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The writings of author, therapist, and priest Robert Warren Cromey.

Tuesday, November 29, 2022


 Companies lay off thousands of employees. They want to save money in these inflation times. Their actions make many people poorer. The companies  owners stay rich and perhaps get wealthier.


 I am very relaxed into my Christian faith. I no longer believe in the historicity of the Bible or the creedal faith. I love the Christian story, Jesus birth, ministry, death and resurrection. Jesus healing the sick, feeding the hungry and seeking justice have always been  inspirations for me. I see we still need to be fighting for those big three still.

Thursday, October 27, 2022

Jessica's Funeral


Jessica’s Funeral

October 22, 2022

Jessica’s death was devastating to me, Ann, and her sisters Leigh and Sarah and Jessica’s husband Ben and son Caleb. She chose to have no further treatment for her cancer, receive palliative care and let nature take its course. So brave. So shocking. She died six months after her diagnosis. So terribly sad. My pain is debilitating.

Ann and I flew to attend the funeral and celebration of her life in Litchfield, CT. We gathered at a lovely gem of gothic St. Michael’s Episcopal Church in the town. Deep blue and red stained glass windows rose above the altar. Soft  afternoon autumn light shown in on the pew filled people. Five hundred family members and friends showed up to remember Jessica. They came to love and support Ben and Caleb.  Jessica and Ben were well known in their small community. Jessica was a school counsellor and therapist and Ben a popular builder and repairs and their son Caleb went to grammar and high School there.

Jessica said she wanted the hymn Morning Has Broken at the service  It was played and sung. The hymns  Shall We Gather at the River and How Great Thou Art were also sung.

My brother, The Reverend Doctor Edwin H. Cromey, officiated. His homily made reference to Philipians 4. “Whatever is true. Whatever is honourable, Whatever is pure, Whatever is pleasing. Whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, and if there is worthy of praise, think about these things.” Think on these things in reference to Jessica’s life family and vocation.

Mary Charlotte Buck, Jessica’s niece, read the Philipians passage.

Ann Withey Miller and Lisa Geisler, friends from childhood,

and son Caleb Buck gave remembrances.

The final prayers included great words of hope and solace from the Book of Common Prayer.

“Into your hands, O merciful savior, we commend your servant Jessica. Acknowledge, we humbly beseech the a sheep of your own fold, a lamb of your own flock, a sinner of your own redeeming. Receive her into the arms of your mercy, into the blessed rest of everlasting peace and into the company of the saints in light.

In sure and certain hope of the resurrection to eternal life, through our Lord Jesus Christ, we commend to almighty God our sister Jessica, ashes to ashes and dust to dust. 

The Lord bless her and keep her and make his face shine upon her and be gracious to her and the Lord lift up his countenance upon her and give her peace.”

At these last words Leigh, Sarah and I stood grasped together in tears.

The final Hymn was Hymn to Joy. 

 Joyful, Joyful We Adore Thee.

Monday, September 26, 2022


 What Good is Prostitution?

I think prostitution should be made legal.

I am a liberal Christian, an Episcopalian all of my 91 years. Christians can usually be counted on to be against all sex before marriage. Prostitution has always seemed at odds with Christian morals and ethics.

Prostitution has always existed in human life. The oldest profession is a righteous appellation. It seems be part of the creation. The creator of the universe brought it into being, like homosexuality or heterosexuality. It is neither good or bad it just is.

Jesus famously dined with prostitutes. He never disclaimed it. However, prostitution was made sinful from the earliest beginnings of the church. We need to change that.

Our story is that God enfleshed himself in human history in the man Jesus. Human physical life is holy, sacred and full of pleasure.

The pursuit of pleasure is good and beautiful. Men and women selling their bodies for providing sexual pleasure is a good activity. It provides relaxation, enjoyment, ecstasy, intimacy, a sense of worth and a connection to ones self and another.

Certainly there are negative aspects to prostitution. Children and adults being forced, without their consent is one. Possibility of communicating disease and unwanted pregnancy is another. 

I think prostitution should be made legal. It epitomises the virtues of capitalism. Prostitution  fills a need that many men and women have for sex. Prostitutes are independent entrepreneurs. They avoid taxes. They do marketing, set their own prices and enjoy their profits.

Bordellos should be legal businesses. They protect women who choose to be prostitutes. They provide food, shelter, health care, lodging and safety.

I believe this is a new Christian attitude that needs proclaiming.

Wednesday, August 10, 2022




Building more buildings will not help the  homeless. Rents will be so high, our homeless can’t pay for them. As renters move away, our homeless can’t pay the rent in the new vacancies.

Some homeless people need to be off the streets and in long term medical and mental health facilities.

Some homeless are alcohol and drug abusers

Some homeless want to work again.

Some homeless choose to live on the streets.

All it takes is money.

Money for really low rent cost housing

Money for long term care health facilities

Money for drug and alcohol treatment programs

Homelessness will be with us for a long time.

The enormous wealth of the few, trickles down to less money for the poor.

When the economy is more just, the homeless  will get homes or at least place to stay off the streets.

Monday, August 01, 2022



The dictionary definition is “Worship is the feeling or expression of reverence and adoration….”  Worship is to whom we give our worth. Worthiness, acknowledgement of worth is worship. God and Jesus are the objects of our worship. The power of the universe, the ground of all being, being itself are  also what we worship.

We have a sense of sanctity, holiness derived through liturgy, meditation and prayer. Life and the universe is a mystery to be experienced and explained. The sense of awe and inspiration viewing great art listening to music enters in. Nature, animals, mountains and oceans inspire.

Viewing the great statue of David in Venice, hearing the Tuba Mirum from the Berlioz Requiem filled me with awe. The haunting power of the Eucharist is holiness. The power of deep sex emerges from within us.

My sense of the holy, the sacred and metaphysical comes and goes. It is never intense or even emotional. It is presence, essence and peace. It is an awareness of just the way it is. Wholeness and holiness awaken the sense of the beyond science or rationality. It is a sense of peace with myself and the universe. 

The result of worship is accepting the inevitable and fighting for justice. The result of that inner peace is the willingness to follow Jesus.

Saturday, July 30, 2022


 I am making a resolution to cook one substantial item each week. Two weeks ago it was Gazpacho soup. It turned out well and we had it as part of three meals. Wednesday this week I made a Hungarian Mushroom soup. I adore mushrooms. The soup finishes with sour cream and lemon. Delish, enough for four courses. I got both recipes from Molly Katzen's Moosewood Cookbook. Who knows what exotic creation will emerge for next week?

I am disgusted and horrified by the headlines I read news on line. I do not watch any  TV so-called  news. The media has made awful, very terrible bad news entertainment. Media appeals to our lowest instincts for gratification. The intent of TV news is to stimulate emotions. Facts and news are after thoughts. I prefer to be stimulated by food, sex and fine stories. (He says self-righteously.)

I regard all human beings as depraved and gloriously good, all at the same time. I expect bad news all the time. Sadly media seldom shows us. good news, healing, art, music, joyous events and the happiness we all enjoy. I get that by being. thankful every day for the joyous wonders of my life. Ann, daughters, grandchildren, friends, health, money, music, writing and the peace we Americans live in most of the time.

Thursday, July 14, 2022

Russians are Human beings


How come we only get the bad news from Russia? There are human beings in that country. They raise chickens, have babies, eat, go to work and sleep. They love their children and elders. There is art music and culture. We never hear about those parts of the lives of our so-called enemies.

Putin and his government have invaded the Ukraine, a dastardly action. The soldiers kill, maim and destroy property. The people of Russia did not get to vote on the war. Russian military is full of young men drafted into service against their will.

I pray for the end of the war and the people of Russia.